When Is It Okay To Call Her A Slut?

She could have graced any billboard or magazine cover.She had the kind of walk that left strands of saliva on the mouths of men.The kind of walk that demanded attention.She was the kind of woman women loved to hate.The room was enchanted by her.We followed her every move.She sat alone for a short while.Then a man who was either extreemly brave or extreemly drunk decided to make the first move.Like a brave soldier marching in the front lines of battle,he was the first to fall.He left scoffing,defeated.But he did not go out silently.Like the last kick of a dying horse he shouted defiantly,”Your just a slut ….”He then went on to spew out the kind of venom only a drunken mind would.The room went silent at first,then the chuckles began and finally a thunderous laughter erupted.You could literally see her face drop.All of a sudden she looked defeated.As if that one word sucked all  the confidence from her very core.It didn’t take long until she left.It was both a disturbing and fascinating scene.

That scene keeps replaying in my head.Its funny how somebody who barely knows you can throw around such a word carelessly and it sticks as your identity.I don’t exactly know why she was there.No one knew why she was there.But so what if she was there sex.Is it such a big deal?I mean,if it was a guy no one would think twice about it.What is so wrong with women wanting to have sex.

It’s sad that women who have frequent sex are seen as sluts while men are veiwed as some kind of conquerers.Even women themselves get offended when you  suggest the idea that  they may want to have sex.That a woman wanting sex is so wrong.That assuming a woman wants sex is degrading her in some way.Maybe it’s because Iam a guy that is why I will never understand it.The funniest part is that women will be the first to call others sluts.Without any prior information.Can a girl just get laid without such derogatory names being thrown around? 


7 thoughts on “When Is It Okay To Call Her A Slut?

  1. Wow this is really powerful and so true. I honestly myself as a woman don’t understand why it’s degrading either. It just is. Maybe because a slut is considered a woman with low standards and multiple sexual partners, I’m not sure. For some reason though when we dislike another woman we call them sluts, I think this is because it is instilled in our minds (by some men and society) that, that word is the one that can cut the deepest so it’s more of a way to hurt her even if we don’t actually mean she’s a slut. Men on the other hand, I can’t speak for y’all but I think when they get rejected they just want the woman to feel some sense of pain because she hurt his ego by denying him. A huge stereotype is a woman walks into a bar alone, a guys first thought is she’s single and his second thought is she wants sex. The society and world alone has put so many stereotypes on women and it’s difficult to not follow them sometimes. But, women should be building other women up. And men should be learning how to respect women whether they get rejected or not.

    Love your post,
    -Ash

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  2. This entire time I’ve been reading your blog, I’ve been imagining that you are a woman -___- . Anyways’ it’s nice to know that there are decent men like yourself that focus on redeeming women rather than stigmatize them w. derogatory terms

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